Your Relationship and Your Online Reputation

Are online activity and relationships a good mix for your online reputation?

While it may be exciting to tell all your online friends about your new love interest, post cute lovey dovey status updates and pics, this may not always pan out well for your online reputation.

Apart from some of the privacy issues that are presented by your very public relationship, there are other concerns.

What if things go bad? Will there be a social media backlash for all to see? Will someone get pissed off enough to post unflattering or nude pics that were meant only for their eyes at one time?

Relationship expert Wayne Powell advises that less is more when it comes to your relationship and social media. “If you are in the habit of sharing the exciting happenings in your life particularly as it relates to your relationship, when things go bad your followers would want to be informed as well. This might cause some embarrassing moments as you may feel an obligation to update them, particularly if you were the one who was dumped,” he said.

“So the very intimate details including the x-rated pictures of you with Mr Mention should remain out of cyberspace. You don’t want to be doing damage control after certain information or pictures have been used against you,” he said.

However, there seems to be very little one can do by way of damage control when 1,000 of your closest friends and hundreds of business acquaintances are privy to the war of words being traded between you and your ex or the uploading of unflattering photos on your Facebook page or on Instagram. Sure you can de-like photos, for want of a better word, delete them even, but everything is so instant online that chances are someone would have seen it before you even hit the delete button.[1]

There are thousands of examples[2] where jilted ex-lovers have added their ex’s info along with rants to revenge sites, added images to revenge porn sites and other public websites to get back at their ex for whatever reason.[3][4][5]

In Arizona, as well as some other states this sort of revenge behavior is now considered under cyber-bullying laws.

Arizona’s latest cyber-bullying law went into effect July 24, making “revenge porn” a felony punishable by a minimum of six months to a year imprisonment and a $150,000 fine.

Revenge porn, also known as non-consensual pornography or cyber rape, is the act of displaying, uploading or publishing photos or video of another person nude or engaged in sexual activities without his or her consent.[6]

Remember, everything you post or share could come back to haunt you, or at the very least embarrass you. Be careful what you share. Even with your lover.


How about this scenario?

Imagine coming home from work or after class and finding your email account filled with messages from strangers telling you how “hot” you are and asking you if you are free to “hook-up” that night — a mailbox full of messages from friends alerting you that there are nude pictures of you published on revenge-porn website complete with your name, email, Facebook and Twitter information. Imagine, in a panic, googling yourself and with a sick feeling finding that the first hit is that very website with a thumbnail image of you, naked. In an instant, you feel your life is over. Anyone can get on the site: employers, prospective employers, friends, strangers, even your grandparents.[7]

If the damage has been done, and you need to repair your online reputation from a relationship gone bad, read the BadRepman PORM guide.

References and Footnotes

  1. Advertising your relationship status could come back to haunt you All Woman -
  2. ex lover posts nude revenge - Google Search
  3. The rise of revenge porn, jilted lovers upload explicit pictures but police can't do anything - Mirror Online
  4. Woman fights for revenge porn laws after ex posted nude photo online -
  5. **NSFW** Get Revenge! Naked Pics of Your Ex -
  6. It's officially illegal to post naked photos of your ex in Arizona - AZcentral
  7. The Shocking Trend of Revenge Porn: Where Can a Victim Turn? - Steven Brill